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No because pride and prejudice isn’t “I changed myself for you so you would love me back.” It’s “your blatant rejection and disdain for me made me realize things about myself no one had ever been bold enough to tell me so I sat down and evaluated all my behavior patterns and why they came about and came to the realization myself that I had to work on myself. Also I don’t expect you to love me now that I’m a work in progress, so I’m just going to do nice things for you because I don’t like seeing you hurt.” No wonder P&P fans refuse to settle.
Do you ever think about Minkowski and Eiffel? Do you ever think about how, even when she didn’t really like him, she refused to contemplate the idea of not going out into a solar storm to save his life? Do you ever think about how after Hilbert’s mutiny, when everything they thought they knew about the mission had been replaced with dangerous uncertainty, Eiffel was the only person within lightyears that Minkowski could trust, and vice versa? Do you ever think about how he was able to make her laugh in spite of everything? Do you ever think about him saying “At least I have you around to keep me out of trouble” and “The force of your common sense keeps the rest of us insane-os in check”? [cont. below the cut]
For anyone in SoCal or the Southwest, excessive heat warnings have been issued for Phoenix, LA, Las Vegas and record temperatures have already been recorded. Stay safe this week and make sure you’re aware of the signs of heat stroke and heat exhaustion!
Y'all stay safe in this hot
If someone has heat stroke, DO NOT USE ICE TO COOL THEM DOWN
You will shock their body too much, use something more gentle (fans, cool (not too cold) water, things like that
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today i just learned that what i have been experiencing nearly every summer was not, in fact, just intense heat exhaustion
In some states they send these out in the mail every summer
pro tips from someone who roughed it doing summer boot camp in the desert for several years & administered first aid for heat exhaustion/stroke more than a few times:
- drink water before you get thirsty. - similarly, bring more than one bottle of water with you, especially if you’re like me and walk/take public transit a lot. if you can’t, fill your bottle ¼ - 1/3 full with ice cubes. they’ll melt and make ur bottle go a bit farther. - wear a hat. preferably wide-brimmed & well ventilated, but anything that protects you from the sun is gonna help. light-coloured, loose fitting clothes help too.
if you’re already feeling overheated, apply cool, damp cloths
- on the nape of your neck - on top of your head/forehead - in between your thighs - in your armpits
if you’re out and about and feeling hot, try putting the aforementioned iced water bottle between your thighs or under your armpit. it really does help! and if you’re gonna cool down with a shower, make sure you ease into it with lukewarm water - as already stated, if the water’s too cold it may shock your system.
I hope people eventually realize that ableism isn’t just being mean to a disabled person just because they’re disabled.
It’s the American government not allowing us to have over $2,000 at any given time without threatening to take away our only source of income. It’s still not having equal marriage opportunities, I cannot get married to my fiancée without my money being taken away. I bring in $750 a month from SSI. That’s not even enough for rent. (In case you didn’t know, $2,000 isn’t enough to live off of for a month, so to not be able to have it explains enough.)
Ableism is also taking away disabled parking and adding spaces reserved for cops. [That part is specifically aimed at Walmart.] Cops are abled, that’s how they can do their “job”. They’re even allowed to park at the very front of a building, they don’t need their own spaces.
Ableism is claiming a building is accessible when the “accessibility” features are broken or out of date, which can endanger mobility aid users.
Ableism is choosing to attack someone who doesn’t “look” disabled and shame them just because their disability/chronic illness is invisible; it is leaving notes on the cars that belong to disabled people who can walk, yet still need to park in the disabled parking space, that state that they’re “faking”, “going to hell”, or that they should be ashamed of themselves for “taking a spot from someone who actually needs it”. This includes the phrase, “But you don’t look disabled.”
Ableism is stopping autistic children from stimming, forcing kids with ADHD to sit still, infantilizing adults with down syndrome or other conditions because ableds assume that they don’t know what is going on around them.
Ableism is doctors not listening to their patients, the person who knows their body the best, due to medical racism, fatphobia, or misogyny.
Ableism is assuming every disabled person’s condition is the same, and that all treatments are a one size fits all; in reality, our treatment programs, the accommodations we need, which aren’t “special needs”, are all different and work with a case by case foundation.
Ableism is so much more than what the surface shows it to be. It’s not just treating people unfairly, it’s deliberately ignoring our basic needs for your comfort.
It’s also disabled people are represented in the media, too. Ableism is how disabled stories are turned into pity wank or inspiration porn–like OP said, pushing people into molds. Ableism is how mental illnesses are demonized, and how a lot of villains just so happen to have physical disabilities and/or scars.
And ableism is a society that doesn’t talk about any of this stuff, a society that might not even know what ableism is and centers conversations about disability around abled people.
People will be like “oh I love gay podcast characters” but won’t even listen to the ROOTS (welcome to nightvale)
nothing like hearing this on the very first episode of the show and knowing shit was about to go down
there’s something about reading the tags on this post that really gets to me because so many people are talking about how this podcast was their first exposure to a gay character that wasn’t played off as a joke and instead how powerful it was to see Cecil completely unshakable in his immediate love for Carlos. some people even talked about how they used to listen to this with their parents and how their parents actually became more understanding for their own coming out because of it. I know it’s a podcast that most of us listened to when we were 13 and haven’t caught up to in years and but it’s really refreshing to see how much that representation meant to people then and still now :)
it was also one of the first times i’d seen a jewish character whose jewishness was only used as a joke in explicitly jewish contexts. like not that “hey i don’t worship christmas trees” or “haha circumcision” or something.
the joke is never “haha cecil’s jewish” the jokes were an ancient chant being similar to one he learned in torah school and his mom covering up all the mirrors even though, as far as we know, no one had actually died yet.
he’s explicitly gay and jewish and neither of those things are ever mocked.
I think somewhere people got confused and now think that “privileged” equals “oppressor” and “having privilege” equals “has the power to oppress”.
It doesn’t.
Would love to hear more about this, because I understand the first part, that privileged doesn’t automatically equal oppressor, but I don’t think I know enough to understand how having privilege doesn’t equal having the power to oppress.
Having privilege does not automatically grant you power.
I have working legs. This does not mean I am systemically oppressing people who need mobility aids, and it doesn’t mean I have the power to do it, either. If I got elected to government and passed legislation that removed elevators and ramps on the basis of “Well I don’t need them”, then I’d be systemically oppressing people based on walking privilege.
It’s exactly what I was saying on the other post; existing doesn’t mean oppression.
You do not have mobility problems with your legs at the time of this posting. I do, but I can still walk with relatively little assistance as long as my pain is low and the terrain is not actively working against me. That doesn’t mean the stairs in your house or apartment are oppressing me, or that your ability to climb them with no negative effects is oppressing me. You have the privilege of not needing to worry if you can actually make that climb and thus more avenues are open to you- you don’t have to worry about the expense of buying a house with no stairs, you don’t secondguess if you can actually take the flight, entire venues and employment/schooling oppurtunies and city streets and businesses aren’t completely inaccessible to you because they exist on the third floor with no fucking elevator, you don’t suffer sleepless at night when you were forced to take stairs you shouldn’t have climbed. But unless *you*, specifically YOU, designed these stairways in these places with no other way to access the upper floors… it’s not like you not needing to worry about that is directly oppressing me.
You CAN contribute to it- “why should stairs need to be accessible” “who even needs ramps and elevators” “I mean if you can walk you should be able to take a couple steps” “why do I need to make room for you on the elevator or wait for you to catch up” and my favorite “wow the world’s youngest senior citizen” usually said when walking with my cane. But until that line is crossed, you existing as someone who can walk without pain unassisted is not directly oppressing me.
And that’s the thing. Actions are oppression. Existing as someone with privilege does not mean you automatically oppress people.
“Having privilege” is morally neutral. Society is what bestows you privilege. That is completely out of your control.
“Oppression” is morally repugnant. Actions that contribute to the harm of others are terrible and bad and you should not do them.
really cool how dental and medical insurance truly just do fuck all. really cool how they’re separate as if your dental health is not wildly important to your overall health and like your teeth aren’t a fucking part of your body. thhis is so fun
“well if you meet your deductible—” two separate deductibles. thousands of dollars each. for both dental and medical. even once you meet those you are still paying for like half of the shit. and services are hundreds of fucking dollars to do Anything. money is being paid every fucking month to you people so i get a worthless piece of plastic i can show at offices to have to pay Slightly Less But Still Too Much while you can sit there and twiddle your thumbs and deny claims left and right and wait for me to hit my “”deductible.”” this is why people go without care. uninsured but even insured. people will just neglect shit until it gets so bad because they can’t fucking afford it now but then it’s even worse when it leads to a myriad of other issues. even more expensive. i need every insurance company to explode. FUCK you and your deductible
Eyes also apparently are not part of our body and require separate insurance. Unless you have an infection, or diabetes, or dry eye, or or or… then vision insurance doesn’t give a single shit and medical insurance (which usually has much higher copays and deductibles) kicks in. And both you and your eye doctor probably won’t know which one applies until your exam, bc which one applies depends on your plan(s) and what the doctor sees/finds
Even if you don’t need glasses or contact lenses, it’s recommended to see an eye doctor once a year for your health. I have found/diagnosed diabetes, hypertension, strokes, cancer, genetic diseases, and more as an optometrist. One man ended up needing open heart surgery to save his life and no one would have had a clue there was a problem until it was too late if I hadn’t seen a blood clot in his eye - he was otherwise a picture of perfect health. It’s bullshit that our system doesn’t consider eye care as essential when it can and does save lives